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Assuming you’re straight, do you feel awkward doing gay audios?

January 1, 2018March 20, 2017 by britishfilth

I don’t feel awkward making any audios.

I try and cater for everybody by being varied in what I record, but mainly, I approach sexuality as something we all share and experience in different ways. There aren’t ‘heteros’ and ‘homos’, there are only ‘humans’, and the way our sexuality is manifested in different ways is just a beautiful example of how interesting and wonderful we are as a species.

I enjoy having fun and exploring every consensual sexual expression through my audios, and only plan to continue doing so.

I won’t feel awkward making any of them because the beauty and wonder of humanity transcends specifics, and that’s my level. I align with, accept and appreciate those of all sexualities, gender types and variations, and this blog doesn’t recognise the notion of being ‘awkward’ around any.

You worry about the categorisation, and I’ll worry about the orgasms :)

How am I able to be open in not only trusting men but also people?

January 1, 2018March 14, 2017 by britishfilth

Full question: “In my last relationship I thought my fiancé was “the one.” We had been together for 4 years and 6 months before we were supposed to get married I had found out he had been cheating on me for a year. I am trying to get out into dating but I am too afraid to trust men again. How am I able to move on and be open in not only trusting men but also people?”

Firstly, I’m genuinely sorry you went through such an experience.

Sadly, there are people in all groups who aren’t developed enough to treat others with respect. No single experience with one person reflects on others in that group, and I’m glad you’ve not let him stop you from believing that others can be trusted, although I appreciate how hard that is now.

‘Moving on’ isn’t something you decide to do, it’s a gradual process that takes place over time, and one day you’ll realise you’re in a different place. Try to place the anxiety of ‘putting this behind you’ to one side, and surround yourself with positive people – friends who are supportive, encouraging, edifying and uplifting.

Let them hold your hand for a while. That’s not weakness, that’s friendship.

There’s no easy way around this – trust means being open and letting part of yourself become vulnerable. My best advice would be to do that in stages, a little bit at a time, and be aware of how that’s handled by whoever it is. Remember, the most crucial belief you have is in yourself.

You’re a strong, beautiful person independent of anybody else, so if somebody mistreats you, fall back on that and you’ll be OK, even if it might hurt for a while.

Lots of love x

What’s your take on the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing?

January 1, 2018March 11, 2017 by britishfilth

It’s for everybody to decide what level of friendship they want with each friend in their life, so I don’t have any fixed ‘position’ on this one.

What I would say is that true friendship is such a spectacular gift, and so rare. To have a friend who genuinely has your back; who sees you through when others see you’re through; who will be candid but committed, considerate but constructive, is an amazing thing to experience.

Introducing sex into friendship may not be much of a ‘benefit’ at all. I’ve been in a friendship that became sexual and we both soon yearned for the days we could just hang out without a sexual dynamic; that we could hold hands simply because we valued each other without wondering if the other wanted to take it to the bedroom.

Some days, many of us hope we’ll find real friends in our lives, almost as if the friends we have right now are the temporary ones until our proper friends arrive later in life, and we miss the elephant in the room: the people you know right now?

They’re it. That’s who you have, at least during this chapter.

Friendship is such a powerful commitment, and it’s worth investing in and protecting. My concern would be that casual sex would either de-value or destabilise the dynamic more than the temporary physical buzz is worth.

In a nutshell: you can be an amazing, uplifting, positive and beautiful part of the lives of those around you, and they can be that way in your life.

So cherish your immediate company. Celebrate it by fostering something that’s special. Start today by telling somebody you know how grateful you are for all the good things about them you get to see.

The results may just bring you more pleasure than an occasional orgasm ever could.

Trans Pride

January 1, 2018February 25, 2017 by britishfilth

I want to take a moment to publicly stand by my Trans followers.

Please remember that no Presidential order, no piece of legislation, company policy or administrative directive will ever define your worth or have anything to say about your value. It’s not about them.

People can sometimes have a curious way of catching up. When we look at when it became legal for women to vote, or for homosexuality to stop becoming illegal, we’re shocked at how long it took us to get it. But we don’t learn. We stick rooted in ideology and outdated principles that are really just empty traditions and cultural norms.

In time, we’ll come to respect and to include. In the meantime, some groups can often be stuck. Stuck between a culture that gives you the freedom to identify as you wish but won’t see you when you do, at which point you’re treated like a threat. I’m so sorry that happens.

It’s not about bathrooms and it’s not about toleration; it’s about respect and it’s about inclusion. It’s about understanding. It’s about humanity and togetherness.

Please, stand tall and proud and know that you’re loved and accepted. There are many of us who are with you; who are for you. We know it shouldn’t be this serious, and I look forward to dancing, laughing and being with you. But while there is a struggle, we don’t trivialize it. We see it and we stand with you, hand in hand, shedding tear by tear with you as elements of society struggle with acceptance.

Let’s fight the good fight and celebrate as we do it. We won’t allow our terms to be defined. We will champion diversity, love and peace. We will keep our gaze fixed on our bright future and hasten the day.

Is it bad I almost started crying during ‘Connection’?

January 1, 2018February 20, 2017 by britishfilth

No, it’s not bad at all.

One of the things I’m trying to do with these audios is give a sense of intimacy with the listener.

I don’t want you just to cum, I want you to feel part of something. Sometimes that’s a fantasy or scenario I create for you to lose yourself in, and other times I’m engaging with a different part of your mind – the part that longs for resonance and synchronicity with something more substantial.

This is most obvious in the romantic audios like Connection, where it’s about love and togetherness as much as it is about sex.

My hope is that this kind of audio will uplift you and help make you feel as awesome as you deserve to. <3

I have a question: You are driving in the rain…

January 1, 2018February 5, 2017 by britishfilth

Full question: “You are driving in the rain. You come across a bus stop with three people waiting. You find the people are your best friend who saved your life once, your soul mate, and an elderly woman who is having a heart attack. You can only carry one other person in your car, and once you leave you won’t see your soul mate again. What do you do?”

Wow, what a question. Here is my answer:

I stop the car, and help the elderly woman inside so I can drive her to the hospital. As the other two help me, my soul mate and I catch each other’s eye. She knows what this means. My best friend is shaken by what’s happening, so I give him money for a taxi and tell him to meet me at the hospital as soon as he can – that I’ll always be here for him, like he was for me and like I must be now for this woman.

Time is against us, but as I turn to face my soul mate, it feels like it’s stopped. We can barely feel the rain. In a split second, the sorrow is overwhelming but so is the connection we feel, as infinite as the universe. Two souls meet like this outside of time, where they always were and will always be together, if not in proximity than in spirit. There are no words, just smiles in spite of the tears; just gratitude in spite of the heartbreak; just a knowledge that a soul mate never truly leaves your heart.

There’s no time to indulge in this, and within a blink, I’m driving to the hospital, one hand on the wheel, the other in the elderly woman’s, gripping mine tightly. She knows as well, as if her touch shares a moment she once had to let go of somebody special herself. I’m comforted by her, and her revelation that where soul mates have to leave, other special people can arrive, and that age can bring wisdom to heal and grow amidst it all.

Thoughts on chubby girls?

December 31, 2017February 2, 2017 by britishfilth

I’m always a bit taken aback by questions like this.

It makes me think you’re asking whether I’d like somebody in spite of being ‘chubby’, which probably means two things: 1) you think chubbiness is in some way a deficiency; and 2) you are – to some extent – defining yourself by your chubbiness.

Let’s break it down.

Firstly, I don’t like the term ‘chubby’. It belongs to a family of pejorative terms that ought to be disused. Forget reclamation, let’s not normalise terms that are too often used to hurt. Let’s not concede to the assholes who carelessly throw these kind of terms around. By doing so, we allow their abuse to creep into our culture through the language we use. Give them no excuse.

Ask yourself this: how do I define myself?

I want you to do something. Next time you weigh yourself, whatever the numbers say, look at the result and say out loud: “that’s not me”. Do this every time. When you feel somebody looking at you and you’re convinced it’s because of your size (which, by the way, we all do about our different physical obsessions), say the same thing mentally. “That’s not me.” Do it to reject that demon. Do it to break the mental chain that has you believing your size is your most significant identifier. Do it to embrace and empower your true self. Do it because it’s true. That’s not you.

Why am I banging on about this? Because ‘chubby’ is not a classification. At best it’s a minor description; an irrelevant observation. Your body is the shell in which the real you lives. The you that cares that your friends are OK. The you that worries whether you’re doing the right thing. The you that enjoys a little cry at a Pixar movie. The you that struggles every day but still holds hope that things might be alright. The you with so much potential to live for.

Do you think anyone cares how much your heart physically weighs? And yet that’s the most valuable organ you have. So let that become the way you self-identify. If you did that, questions like this sound silly. You’d look at them and think ‘wha?’ – because ‘you’ are not how heavy you are, and however heavy you actually are, doesn’t register on the scale of what’s truly important.

Being healthy is great. But being healthy within yourself is freedom.

Thoughts on a New Year

January 1, 2018January 2, 2017 by britishfilth

Try typing ‘new year’s day’ into your phone. You’ll probably find it altered to upper case. We know why that is: the cultural importance necessitates a certain gravitas in phonesville, and that’s understandable.

But time doesn’t mark us. Actually, it’s the other way around. The start of a new year (or your next birthday, for that matter) doesn’t dictate the requirements you ought to have reached. It doesn’t provide an expectation against which you should measure yourself. It doesn’t actually provide any standard whatsoever, it’s just the passing of a specific measurement of days. Yet concepts like resolutions can pressure us horribly and encourage us to succumb to declarations of intent, whether publicly or privately: it’s now or never!

The truth is, it’s neither.

We are the ones who mark our time. We decide how best to live; what we feel capable of achieving and what’s realistic to expect of ourselves. Time isn’t some concept we can outsource any of that shit to, it’s simply a measurement of something about which we are always fully in control: the pace we set ourselves to handle our business the best way we know how.

The last thing I want for you is to feel pressured by the start of another year. Even if you’d prefer to improve yourself or your situation right now, don’t let this focus on the next number to put on a date stamp make you feel any less capable or held back.

You own this.
Always did; always will.

There is no rush. Take your time and do it your way. The focus shouldn’t be your speed but your direction. Are you heading somewhere that’ll improve your sense of peace and well-being? If not, what does that look like and how do you start to get there? Let self-enquiry guide you, not the pressure of keeping up with new year fads.

My hope is that 2017 won’t bring you anything you wish for right now. I hope it’ll surprise you. Astound you. Resurrect your belief that life can bring goodness and fulfilment, and strengthen your hope in the fullness of time.

Do you care if a girl has stretch marks?

January 1, 2018December 30, 2016 by britishfilth

You might notice that I don’t make any reference to physicality at any point in my audios. That’s no accident. It doesn’t interest me what colour hair you have, what body size you are or the condition of your skin. My favourite part of your body is your heart. I want to know what you enjoy. I want to know what excites you; what sets your heart racing and elates you; what puts a smile on your face and makes you feel whole.

It’s that level of connection I’m interested in, and it’s that level of interaction I try and bring to my audios, often implicitly. It’s not how you look but who you are that I care about. That sounds romantic but it doesn’t need to be – rougher, wilder sex doesn’t have to objectify and is only intensified by a strong connection, even if that connection is short lived.

The short answer is no.

Moving Forward

January 1, 2018November 10, 2016 by britishfilth

All of us are waking up today to a changed world. For some, the world has changed for the better; government now feels within reach, priorities that felt neglected are now in play, and somebody relatable has been awarded power, rather than a member of the privileged elite. For others, our potential to grow has been lost to bigotry, intolerance and aggression.

This blog isn’t political, but I do care that you’re OK. I care that you feel safe and free to be, and to express yourself without fear of judgement or intimidation.

I know that many of you will feel bewildered and disappointed with the result of the US election. More will feel confused about how somebody who represents something so different from what feels right will soon become the most powerful person in the world.

So let’s take a few seconds to catch our breath. Our world is still turning, the sun is still rising, and we are still here. For as long as we are, so is hope.

Hope doesn’t come attached to a political candidate and if our chosen one loses, it doesn’t die. Hope is personal. It’s not realised when we elect somebody to a bigger home and a higher pay check, but when we personally and directly cause it to come alive. Hope exists when we introduce ourselves to the neighbour who we’ve never spoken to; when we give to the homeless and the less fortunate; when we smile as we pass people on the street and give them cause to believe the world might just be on their side.

We can create the change we want to see. Hope is like sunlight, straining to burst into a darkened room. We’re not responsible for its creation, but we can create the opportunity for it to reveal itself, and that happens at an individual level. We all have the opportunity to either suffer disappointment or to counter it.

If you feel disappointment today, I’d like you to give somebody a compliment. Just as a start. Do it sincerely and ignore that sense of awkwardness that stops you. Think of somebody you love, and what you love about them, and share it. They may smile straight away or they may not, but you’ll have sown something only good can come from. You’ll feel pretty good too, I promise.

Let’s keep moving forward, hand in hand, one moment at a time.