Staring into the Void
This time of the year is a bit like a twilight zone for many of you. The gap between loneliness and hopelessness. Christmas seemed to happen to everyone else, and there doesn’t appear much to look forward to next year, just a lot more of the same shit we say we enjoy but we know […]
How can you feel and be loved when the world is saying you shouldn’t?
By being brave. By hearing things the world seems to be saying, and rejecting them if they harm you. Do you want to know a secret? ‘The world’ isn’t really saying anything. Instead, we’re fixating on things that bring us down because we’re unhappy with who we are. It feels easier to blame ‘the world’, […]
How can we become genuinely caring and not judging of others?
It’s a process that has to start with ourselves. We not only need to love ourselves and stop giving ourselves a hard time, we also need to understand what that love means. It’s a simple thing to say; an easy enough phrase to throw about, but what does it mean to love ourselves? And how […]
What are your opinions on online/internet relationships?
I think they’re great. I’m a fan of any connection. The internet is a fantastic way to cross paths with somebody who, not so long ago, you’d never have known existed. It’s a brilliant example of the way that our human progress is bringing us opportunities. At the risk of sounding like your dad, it’s […]
What is your one major turn on? Bums, boobs, eyes?
Bums, boobs, eyes; arms, waists, thighs… all these things are the shell in which true beauty lives. Maybe you fit the definition of ‘beautiful’ as fed to us by the publishers who hope we’ll buy their magazine that helps us with a special diet. Maybe you fit the concept of ‘perfect’ as given to us […]
How can I feel happy again?
Short term: a tub of your favourite ice cream, this song, this book, this video, this audio 😉 Long term: can happiness actually be pursued? Or is it a beautiful by-product of a different, more fulfilling quest? Sometimes we fixate on our desired state. We want to feel free, lucky, chosen, blessed… happy. But these […]
What do you find to be the most attractive feature or quality in someone?
Their heart. Seriously. What attracts me is how somebody treats other people; how they care for those with less than them; how they support and encourage those around them and build others up with love and compassion. We are encouraged to make immediate judgements about others based on empty, superficial aspects of their physicality – […]
How to love?
This is such an important question, because the answer simultaneously provides solutions to many other related traumas. How can I feel like I’m worthwhile? Where is my sense of happiness/fulfilment? What can I do to make a difference? All of these are wrapped up in this question, but here are the main two related enquiries: […]
Do you think sex is important in a relationship?
To put it clinically, sex is the physical expression of an attraction between two (or more) people. It’s the manifestation of a connection, whether that connection exists for one night, one year, one decade or a lifetime. When we focus on sexual activity as the defining characteristic of our relationship with others, we risk merging […]
Why is life so hard?
It can often feel that way, can’t it? Life can seem a lonely, uphill struggle. Yet to others, life appears to be easy. Why is it some of us struggle with things that don’t seem to affect someone else? Is it that their life is easier? Have we been dealt a bad hand of cards? […]