Do you find black women attractive?
Answering this is problematic. To use another person’s skin colour as the subject of their attractiveness is to elevate it disproportionately. It’s like asking if I’m attracted to a particular accent or a dominant arm. The object of my desire is a person who has discovered the bravery of forging their own self against a […]
God loves you :-)
*bites tongue* … **presses down really hard** … ***winces***… ah, fuck it. Really? That’s interesting, because I have few questions and given I reserve my respect for theories based on the weight of evidence, I’ll direct them towards you, because you’re real. So, which God is it? Let me assume, and correct me if I’m […]
Is it a turn off to be a 24 year old virgin?
So this sounds like a ‘way things are’ vs ‘way I think things should be’ scenario. The latter is all consuming and presents a false standard against which we can judge ourselves. The former is, always has been, and always will be, totally fine. That’s easy to say in theory, but in practice it can […]
Do you think porn is wrong and immoral?
We need to define some terms. Let’s extend the definition of ‘porn’ beyond the big studios and websites so it includes ‘tube’ type sites, cam model sites and – yes – Tumblr blogs. Basically, anything that not only creates but also extends the reach of sexually explicit material. Let’s keep the discussion about heterosexual pornography, […]
Do you ever get bored with sex?
I get bored of everything, from time to time. I think we all do. We don’t have the concentration span to be infinitely engaged with one thing, and no thing is here to infinitely engage us. We’re just here. And so is that. Sometimes those paths cross, and sometimes they keep crossing. Sometimes they never […]
Question: You have to pick one door…
Full question: “Say I’m standing in front of you with 2 keys to 2 separate doors. You HAVE to pick one. Door 1, will leave you in the life you have now, just as it is, with the exception of 1 million pounds added to your bank account. Door 2 merges in your kitchen, where […]
What exactly is your sexual preference?
I’m more interested in the question than the answer. What is this desire to categorize others all about? Why the need to box people? One of the most beautiful things about our shared humanity is our diversity. Our desires and experiences are broad and varied, and I find that wonderful. Just as we differ in […]
Are you religious?
I used to be a fundamentalist Christian, and I’m not any more. I’ll explain why. As I grew older, I discovered new things: rainbows exist because light is refracted; reindeer cannot run at the speed of light, and closing your eyes doesn’t make you invisible to adults. One of the ways I could track the […]
What type of person are you looking for in a relationship?
In my ideal relationship, there’d be a synergy; a coming together of energies that would combine in the most perfectly wonderful and compatible way. That’s to say, I’m not looking for somebody in order to tick a box, or for personal gain. I’m hoping to give as much as get, knowing that my partner will […]
Do you talk dirty non-stop when you’re with your partner?
No. There are a few reasons for that. Firstly, this is a fantasy – it’s an invitation to indulge in some audio filth which wouldn’t work if I didn’t say anything! Dirty talk is necessary but I try and make it inclusive and empowering as well. Secondly, it’s a performance. It’s not real life; it’s […]